tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6616564003692222829.post6044355412932032913..comments2023-06-25T02:28:03.801-07:00Comments on Reaching Upward: Looking UpwardK. L.http://www.blogger.com/profile/16764511948691886350noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6616564003692222829.post-27798085582339693292008-11-10T20:08:00.000-08:002008-11-10T20:08:00.000-08:00Well written article.Well written article.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6616564003692222829.post-73755473073475470832007-12-02T06:29:00.000-08:002007-12-02T06:29:00.000-08:00RU,Thank you for your faithful testimony, and shar...RU,<BR/>Thank you for your faithful testimony, and sharing the Sundays as well as the Fridays. I think we sometimes fixate on the bad things, and so when good things also happen, we trivialize them or think that no one else would be interested. In so doing, we deny for ourselves and others the Lord's blessings; by reconsidering just how merciful and kind He is in our lives we invite the Lord's love into our hearts. Sharing our faith and testimony lets that love stay there a little longer. I feel enriched this morning by reading your blog--thanks.<BR/><BR/>I'm so happy to hear you have ventured out to extend friendship to two men you care about. I hope you can enjoy regular time together. I would advise you to not push things too fast in coming out to your high school friend. Rather, recognize its been several years you've been apart, so just let things flow and unfold naturally. Has he married as well, or is he looking? If he's single, then the whole process of dating and marriage relationships from your seasoned viewpoint would most likely be an interesting topic to him. Tell him about both the good and the not so good from your personal experiences; be real and genuine and this will give you each additional reasons to trust one another. When a friend shares with me the difficult issues of his life, then that is a sign to me that he truly values my friendship and confidence. <BR/><BR/>I hope you don't think I've just said don't tell but do tell--no, what I've tried to explain is pace yourself in the give and take of conversation with friends.<BR/><BR/>I have found that doing lunch with a friend in a planned way, a couple times a month, is a most satisfying activity. After many months, the range of topics and personal details that are covered bit by bit add to a great base for friendship and understanding. You don't have to spill the beans all at once, because you know there will be time to tell pieces of your story along the way. Hiking, riding, jogging, working out or just doing something physical with a friend is also a great way to bond a friendship.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with your friends. I hope this is the beginning of meaningful times ahead for you, to share yourself with men in good and healthy ways.GeckoManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04846438788253129899noreply@blogger.com